“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” So said Samuel Johnson and I’ve been pondering on his words a fair bit recently. Because, you see, they’re slippery things, habits. One day you wake up and realise that you have been eating the same breakfast, sitting in the same train carriage or sleeping on the same side of the bed for as long as you can remember and yet you never recall taking a conscious decision to form a habit to do any of these things. It’s a behaviour pattern that you slipped into without even noticing and now you can’t conceive of doing things differently. But try and consciously form a new habit (regular exercise, reading a book a month, drinking 8 glasses of water a day) and most of us will find it inexplicably difficult.
I’ve recently been reading an absorbing book on habits, called Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin, author of another favourite book of mine, The Happiness Project. It asks the intriguing question of why we are so keen on habit forming – and the answer is that it simply makes life easier! If you are always in the habit of walking the same route to work it, it means that instead of concentrating on where you are going, your brain is freed up to think about other things, so it’s simply a matter of efficiency. Once you have formed a habit of playing squash with a friend every Thursday night, then you needn’t expend any more energy or brain power on deciding what to do on a Thursday night, or deciding whether to go and play squash at all: no decisions are required, just observance of the habit. Gretchen postulates that to successfully start a new habit, we need to formulate a strategy based on which of four personality types we fall into: Rebels (who despise routine and obligations and therefore actively avoid them); Questioners (who will only fulfil an obligation if they are provided with a good reason to do so); Obligers (who will fulfil external obligations that they made to other people but are less good at fulfilling internal commitments to themselves); and Upholders (who fulfil all internal and external obligations).
Knowing which group you fall into is key to how you should go about forming a new habit. So, for example, if you are an Obliger, making a promise to yourself to go to the gym, 3 times a week unlikely to lead to a successful habit. But if you agree to go for a run with a friend three times a week, this habit is far more likely to stick because it involves an external obligation. Of course, it is more complex than that – some people are more successful at slow, incremental changes that eventually form a habit while others prefer a eureka moment that leads them to make a drastic change in habits without a backward glance. I have been pondering some bad habits lately (snoozing in front of the TV after dinner with the cats; going to bed too late) and wondering about how to ditch them and cultivate some good habits (exercising more than the current twice a week; getting more sleep in bed rather than on the sofa; a more regular blog posting schedule). The former two have been seductively easy to slip into and the latter three have proved stubbornly hard to implement – but I am hoping with Gretchen’s help, I’ll get there. What habits would you love to break or adopt?
A habit that my better half seems unable to break is the habit of overplanting on his allotment. Remember three years ago when he went against all conventional wisdom and planted eight (!) courgette plants? #CourgetteTsunami! And another year it was a glut of tomatoes which became all manner of sauces and chutneys. And then last year was the year of the spaghetti squash. I think he may have mixed up the seeds and thought he was planting a variety of gourds… but all we got were spaghetti squash. Now, much as I love them, they are a little tricky. Their stringiness and high water content makes them less than ideal for soups and roasting so I had to come up with a few creative idea to use them up. The most obvious is to stuff them with savoury mince (rather like my stuffed gem squash) but I have also made them into a delicious risotto. But lately, since I have been trying limit the starchy foods I have at dinnertime, I decided to try and use them instead of pasta in a mince bake that’s backed with hidden vegetables and topped with melted cheese. Result! You can be a bit adventurous with the seasoning of the mince as the squash itself is not very flavourful, and the finished dish is proper comfort food, but without the starchy bulk of potatoes or pasta. Definitely a habit I could get into 🙂
If you love squash as much as I do, check out these other squash recipes:
- My spaghetti squash risotto with chilli & feta
- Ren’s roasted squash with tahini and za’atar
- Kellie’s kale stuffing butternut squash stacks
- Urvashi’s roast porcini and thyme squash
- Kalyn’s spaghetti squash & chard gratin
- 1 spaghetti squash
- olive oil
- seasoning of your choice
- 1 onion, finely chopped
- 1 clove garlic, minced
- 1 stick of celery, finely chopped
- 2 carrots, finely chopped
- 400g lean beef mince
- Salt and pepper
- 50g grated Cheddar
- hot sauce of your choice (I used Frank's RedHot Sauce)
- Pre-heat the oven to 190C. Quarter the spaghetti squash and scoop out the seeds with a spoon. Brush all over with olive oil, season generously with seasoning of your choice (Cajun seasoning works well but in this instance I used a mix of crushed coriander seeds, paprika and salt) and place on a baking sheet skin side down. Roast for about 45 minutes or until the flesh is soft enough to pierce with a fork. Remove from the oven, scoop the flesh off the skin, season to taste and set aside.
- While the squash is roasting, heat a couple of tablespoons of olive oil in a large frying pan and add the chopped vegetables. Sauté gently until the onions are transparent and the carrots are softening but still al dente. Add the mince and continue to sauté, breaking up any chunks to ensure that the meat cooks evenly. Once the meat is cooked through, check for seasoning and add salt and pepper, as well as a splash of hot sauce if you are co inclined.
- In a large bowl, thoroughly mix together the cooked squash and the mince mixture, then spoon it into an oven-proof casserole dish. Sprinkle with grated Cheddar and splash with more hot sauce. Reduce the oven temperature to 180C and bake in the centre of the oven until the casserole is bubbling and the cheese beginning to brown (about 15-20 mnutes).
- Serve immediately with a big green salad.
Make sure you use the leanest beef mince you can find - normal mince renders too much fat.
Make it vegetarian by substituting soya mince for the beef mince.
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Your spaghetti squash dish looks so delicious, I’ve yet to cook one or even see one to buy so on my bucket list! My worst habit is procrastination in the evenings, usually sat in front of the laptop and then I don’t wash up until late and before I know it it’s 1am. Have to really work hard to stop this dreadful cycle!
Interesting about habits. I’m not entirely sure which of the three categories I fall into, I’ll need to ponder it a bit!
Lovely recipe. I’m forever trying to get my hands on a spaghetti squash!
This looks delicious and the perfect way of using up squash. It looks great for a comforting week night dinner
Aaah, you are the sum of your habits. I know for certain I’ll be thinner if I didn’t eat in front of the TV and instead sat at the table consciously focusing on what and how much I’m eating. Baby steps for me it is!
What a comforting dish to enjoy in this nippy weather!
Gosh, I’m trying to thing which of the four categories I best fit into and can’t decide. I’d like to think I’m a Rebel, but I think I’m a combination of Questioner and Obliger. I flit from idea to idea and find it hard to settle on completing tasks, especially if they are boring (cleaning the house) or mindless (updating the blog index). I have a productive burst but I’d rather be working in the garden if it’s nice outside, or making and photographing recipes otherwise. Your casserole looks lush btw. I occasionally play with spaghetti squash, often pairing with garlicky prawns and a herby fresh tomato sauce.
So comforting and satisfying! A great cold weather dish.
Cheers,
Rosa
Ha haaa, love that N went a bit OTT with the spaghetti squash planting! Nice recipe though, looks so delicious.
I’m not sure which of those four types I am, and this is often the problem for me in the many self-analysis (or external analysis) methods that identify which type of personality people have in order to give insights about everything from their preferred way of learning, who they do and don’t work with well, or ways they can work with different types, and in this one, which method of forming new positive habits might work from them. I nearly always split between minimum two, sometimes three out of four types. I thought maybe I was answering the questions poorly, but sat with a NLP expert many moons ago and talked through how and why I answered each question and he confirmed that I was indeed not deluding myself on the answers and that some people just don’t fit.
In youth popular culture speak, I guess I’m a Divergent! 😉
I am addicted to squash, would love this for dinner! Can you come round with some?
Oh wow, cheesy baked goodness right here! I love that you used spaghetti squash too. I’ve only used it a couple of times but love how it tastes so similar to spaghetti without all of the carbs!
That looks deliciously comforting Jeanne, and just the kind of supper we love in this house. I’m a terrible creature of habit, like always having nachos at the cinema whether i’m hungry or not! Falling asleep on the sofa is also a very regular occurrence. I’m trying and failing to watch the latest season House of Cards but keep missing crucial bits!!!!!
This is definitely the perfect weekday dinner! Delicious!